Rules of thumb

Hello world,

How's your week been? I had a pretty good week. It feels like it passed by in a blur really. There's been tons of work to do but I've found myself being pretty calm about it all... finally learning :) I also think I'm in a better place mentally than I was last week. Tough times are hard, but the lessons born out of them tend to be the mot valuable; a reminder for anyone in a tough spot now.

Last night, I downloaded a book app on my phone for the first time in a couple of years. I had a bad relationship with the last book app I used and generally strayed away from such apps for a while. I still read books physically and online, but I didn't really use book apps anymore. Yesterday, I was kinda bored. Specifically, I was the type of bored that has you itching for a good read... so I downloaded this book app that I had used online last year. I'm pretty excited to delve back into reading novels. It's something I really love to do but haven't prioritized nearly as much as I should've. I plan to change that this year. Is there anything you love to do but haven't been doing anymore? I know there might be different reasons for this. Maybe something happened to discourage you in the past, maybe you are really busy and it's hard to carve out time. I can't pretend to know what situation you are in, but there'll always be a reason not to do what you love to. So just do it. Make time for it, even if just 15 minutes. Not every passion becomes a business venture or a career, but doing the things you love enriches your life. You don't want to be remembered or remember your life as one huge work cycle. Make time for the things that you enjoy and love.

It's like a rule of thumb that when you're scared of something, you imprison it or make it inferior. Whether that's in Avatar the last airbender; where the firebenders tried to make the earthbenders inferior because they were threatened by them. Or the Egyptians in the Bible with the Israelites. Or the devil with Christians. Or with white people and black people throughout history; enslaving people because you're intimidated. It doesn't happen to everyone and it might not affect everyone. But to someone it is affecting right now, people would not bother making you inferior if they were not intimidated by you. Just thought to share.

That's really all I have in me right now :) I hope it helps.

God bless.

Dera

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